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If you’re like me, you’ve probably had thoughts about someone, but for one reason or other, you didn’t share them. I’m referring to things like thinking someone looked nice, enjoying someone’s company, expressing your feelings about someone, or seeing someone perform a kind gesture for a stranger, etc. — the good things in life.

It’s interesting how WORDS NOT SHARED can alter our relationships with others — even alter our journey through life. Let me explain by sharing this true story.

I received a very kind note from a high-school friend after she finished reading my novels. I told her that her message made me think of a great topic for a post on my blog. She gave me permission to use the message, but asked me not to share her name

To honor her request, I replaced her signature with “A High School Friend,” but left the context of her message intact. Below is a photo of her actual message — I added the title used for this post.

Her entire message touched my heart, but the middle paragraph is what intrigued me — “I always had a “crush” on you… and still do! Ha!”

I had no idea of the “crush” she may have had on me many years ago. Don’t fret, I saw the “Ha!” at the end of the paragraph. However, that just adds an air of mystery to her message — did she or didn’t she actually have a crush on me? Only my high school friend knows the answer to that question.

For the purpose of this post, let’s assume she meant it, and I knew nothing about it. Think how different our lives might be if she had shared her thoughts with me when we were in high school. This is a perfect example of how WORDS NOT SHARED can alter lives for a day — month — year — or for a lifetime.

I’m happy to report that in this particular situation, my friend and I are very happy how things worked out — it’s the way it was meant to be — maybe. Ha!

I’m sure similar types of situations have happened with many of us — I have certainly done it. How often have you thought how nice someone looked, but said nothing — WORDS NOT SHARED. How often have you been proud of what someone did, but said nothing — WORDS NOT SHARED. I could continue with other WORDS NOT SHARED situations, but I’m sure you know exactly what I mean at this point.

Yes, I have been guilty of not sharing good thoughts to others in the past, but I pledge that I’m going to change in the future. From this day forward, if I think something nice about someone, I’m going to say it and will make sure that person is aware of my thoughts. The only time I will withhold my thoughts is when they are not positive about others — I may think it, but my thoughts will be WORDS NOT SHARED.

With that, let me share these farewell thoughts before you go about your day:

If you are still reading to this point, I want you to know that I think you are AWESOME — I wish you a great day!

Now, make it a priority to share your good thoughts about others with them each day. It may be the best thing they hear that day!

Be blessed in all that you do!

A special note to the high school friend who sent me the note:

“Thank you for making me smile…”

Tom Tatum – Author – 2019

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A TIME IN LIFE to be thankful for family and friends, but most of all, to give thanks to Him each day for the love and grace that He gives to those who believe and have faith  in Him. To God be the glory, great things He hath done.



Tom Tatum – Author – 2018

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Are You On The Right Path?


I attended the funeral of a dear friend two weeks ago. Obviously, my emotional state was a bit fragile as I sat looking at the coffin at the front of the church. I thought about all the good times we shared over the years—the many rounds of golf, tournaments won, watching South Carolina football games, dinners with the wives, and on and on. Each thought reminded me of another—each lifted my spirits.


What I didn’t expect that day was the preacher asking a simple question.

“When your day comes and it is you in the coffin at the front of the church, what do you think your friends will say about you?”

The preacher went on to sing my friend’s praises, but his question hit like a rock to my head—much like David did to Goliath. Yikes!!! What would my friends say about me???

Since that day, I have thought about the preacher’s question many times. The results of my reflections have made me realize my friends may not have much to say about me. Yes, they could say the typical things like: Tom was a nice guy; Tom was friendly; Tom was fun to be around; you could always count on Tom; Tom was always good for a laugh or two, etc.

All of the above are nice, but unfortunately, they are just shallow comments. They could be said about most people. My problem is, I couldn’t think of any substantive things they could say about me. Thus, alarm bells started buzzing and red flags waved in my head. The more I ponder the preacher’s simple question, the more unanswered questions I have.

Have I lived my life making no worthy contributions to the world? Have I just been consuming oxygen and giving nothing of value to others? What was God’s purpose for my life? What are/were His plans for me? Have I already accomplished what He planned for me to do? Am I on the right path? Do I have more to do?

The lack of answers to such questions is what concerns me most. I’m in the twilight of my life and don’t really know what God wants/wanted me to do. It’s not a very comfortable position that I find myself.

I thought I had found God’s purpose for me three years ago. That’s when I started on a journey I thought He had called me to do, which was to write faith-based stories and spread His word to help others. My vision seemed clear, and I felt He was guiding me each step of the way. However, recent events have caused me to think I have not been on the path He wanted me to travel.

Could I have misinterpreted what I thought God called me to do? I pray about it daily asking for His help, but my prayers seem to go unanswered. I go through each day knocking on new doors, but they won’t open; my path grows slowly darker as doubt creeps into my mind. I must find God’s true purpose for my life, yet I know He provides for us in His own time—not ours. I know I need to continue knocking until my vision becomes clear once again, but my resolve grows weaker as time marches on.

I share these thoughts with you not to seek sympathy or confirmation, but to have you think about your own situation in life. With that in mind, please think about the following questions as they relate to you:

  • When your day comes and you are in the coffin at the front of the church, what do you think your friends will say about you?
  • Do you know what God is calling you to do?
  • Are you doing what God called you to do?
  • Are you on the right path?
  • Are you using the talents He gave you in a way that would please Him?
  • Do you need to make changes in your life?
  • Are you trying to make changes?

I hope your answers to these questions make you smile because you are traveling on the right path—His path. If so, you are truly blessed. If not, welcome to my little corner of the world—let’s help each other find the light.

God’s blessings to you!

Tom Tatum – Author

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