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Life is full of opportunities and how we choose to handle them makes the difference between wearing a smile or a frown.

Many of our opportunities present huge challenges and are difficult to carry to fruition. However, there may come a time in life when an opportunity is well within reach, but we choose not to explore the possibilities that exist beyond the surface. We may feel the reward is not worth the effort required or we may simply be too lazy.

This short tale about a pile of boulders in the middle of an old farmer’s field is a good example.



Year after year, an old farmer plowed around the boulders in the middle of his field. Each year, he talked about removing the huge boulders to increase his production. Unfortunately, all he did was talk and never took the time to remove them.

The young farmer who owned the adjacent farm offered to help him remove the boulders on many occasions, but the old farmer just kept plowing around the boulders—for fifty years.

The old farmer became too old to continue plowing the field and realized it was time for him to retire. Unfortunately, the only tangible asset he had was his boulder-laden field. Once again, he thought about removing the boulders, but decided it wouldn’t be worth the effort and chose not to remove them.

One day, the young farmer approached the old farmer and offered to buy the field. The offer was more than the old farmer thought the field was worth, so he sold it to the young farmer. He wished the young farmer well and was glad he no longer had to plow around the boulders.

The first thing the young farmer did was start removing the boulders from the field. One by one, the boulders were loaded onto a truck and hauled away until only one bolder remained—the largest one.

When the young farmer lifted the last boulder, he noticed there was a hole in the ground beneath it. The hole appeared to be the entrance to a large cavern. With flashlight in hand, the young farmer crawled through the opening and began exploring the cavern.

Near the rear wall of the cavern, he discovered a large-locked chest. It was too heavy to lift by hand, so the young farmer used his tractor to pull the chest out into the field.

When he removed the lock and opened the chest, he couldn’t believe his eyes. The chest contained numerous gold relics—vases, necklaces, urns, and medallions. On top of the gold was a note that read:

Life is full of opportunities and those who are willing to remove the boulders from their field of dreams are likely to reap the greatest rewards. Bill Smith – 1792

As the young farmer celebrated his newly found fortune, he paused and thought about the many times he offered to help the old farmer remove the boulders from the field—he smiled.


There are many morals presented in this story. I’ve listed a few of them below. Can you add some others to the list? Please take a moment to share your thoughts.

Morals of the Story

One man’s loss is often another man’s gain.

An opportunity that appears to have no value on the surface may be the best one you have.

Just talking about doing something doesn’t get it done.

Being old does not mean you are a wise person.

There may be more to reap than what we sow.

Have a great day, and remember, remove the boulders from your field of dreams. The results may surprise you.

Tom Tatum – Author – 2016

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Thanks to Tom Foster at HUGEFloods.com for giving me permission to use his photo.


Whether you are a parent, grandparent, relative, teacher, friend, coach or mentor, spending quality time with a child is not only good for the child, it’s an investment in the leaders of the future—make each moment count !

You have a choice—choose wisely! Give a child YOUR TIME.


Tom Tatum – Author – 2016

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I’m sure this happens more often than not. It certainly happened to me!

As kids, we just didn’t respect the wisdom our parents had in the decisions they made about what we could or could not do. We just wanted total freedom to do whatever or go wherever we desired.

Then we become adults and have children of our own, and suddenly, we realize how smart our parents really were—we become our parents. In today’s world, that’s a good thing!


Tom Tatum – Author – 2016

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Let’s talk about a universal topic that most couples encounter at some point during the course of their relationship—LISTENING VERSUS GIVING SOLUTIONS.

It’s been a long hard day and you are having a nice quiet dinner with your wife/girlfriend. Invariably, the topic of “How was your day?” will come up. This seemingly benign topic should not require a lot of thought, but…

There’s always a “but” with things like this, which always adds a little spice to the evening.

We’ve all been there. I’ve been there many times but can’t seem to learn from experience. I blame it on my engineering background, which causes me to look for solutions to all problems—real or perceived. I should probably join a local Solutions Anonymous (SA) group.

Okay, let’s return to the dinner table. The conversation has reached the point where your wife/girlfriend is telling you about her day—the good and the bad things that happened. As she continues, the urge to speak overwhelms you because you have solutions for the bad things that happened to the love of your life. You simply want to help her. Right?

Whoa! Hold your horses, Mr. Solution Man! You haven’t reached Super-Hero status yet. Think carefully before you go jumping any fences.

A wise man knows when to keep his mouth shut. He learned a long time ago that when his wife/girlfriend is speaking about her day, she just wants him to sit quietly and LISTEN. She’s not looking for any SOLUTIONS. She simply wants to share her day with the love of her life.

The conversation was lively, both of you finished dinner, and the night went well. Sweet dreams!

Smiley Nightcap

Unfortunately, there are guys, me included, who missed the wisdom-train and haven’t learned how to do the listening thing. Solutions begin popping into their heads and they have to offer SOLUTIONS. They start running off at the mouth with statements like “You should have…; If you had done…; A good way to handle that…; The best thing for you to do…, etc.” and things go downhill very quickly.

From this, your quiet dinner together turned into somewhat of a confrontation. Things didn’t go well at all! In fact, you learned she packs a mean one-two punch!


Guys, the best thing for you to do (I know, that’s one of those nasty solution lines) is to keep your solutions to yourself while she’s talking—afterward too. Never offer any solutions unless she repeatedly asks for them. Even then, be a wise man and just tell her how much you love her and care for her. You know—she’s the love of your life. If she keeps pressing you for solutions, let the engineer in you come out—then run to your man-cave!

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Yep, I’ve been there, done that, and have the t-shirt too, but not the black eye—yet! Fortunately, my wife just shakes her head while quietly walking away. I’m very lucky it works that way because the chances of me not offering SOLUTIONS are slim, unless I join that SA group.

Let your wisdom prevail. Listening without giving solutions is much better than confrontations at the dinner table.

BTW – this topic is applicable to both parties—it’s a goose and gander thing!

Tom Tatum – Author – 2016

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Here I am writing this article, which is probably just for my own use so I can read it later. I know things always sound more authoritative when you preface your pontifications with,

“I read somewhere that…”

Remember, you’re reading this message after it has travelled many miles through cyberspace. Think about how much more wisdom the article gained while travelling all those miles from my computer to yours. Read on and when you talk to your friends afterward, you can confidently use the term, “I read somewhere that…” Your knowledge will surely impress them to the max! What do you have to lose? Don’t answer that—read on!

Well, here are my thoughts on a very important matter—my (your) path on my (your) journey in life…

All of us have probably had one or more times in life when the path of our journey in life seems to be out of focus. We keep plodding along on our own hoping to find our way through the fuzzy maze. Each head-butt of an obstacle causes us to change direction as we try to find the right path again. Nothing seems to go the way we hoped it would—NOTHING!

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Unfortunately, this bouncing-off-the-walls mentality sometimes drives us further from our intended goal. We become lost, lose hope, and want to give up. Things just aren’t working out the way we envisioned at the start of our journey—when things seemed perfectly clear. We finally realize we need help!

Personally, I am at that point—my path in life is now Out Of Focus. Hope your path is much clearer than mine is. I seem to have lost my way and no longer see my path with any clarity. It’s actually a total blur. I find myself in desperate need of help—lots and lots of help. What am I to do now?

Sure, I could give up, but that’s not a viable option for me. I pride myself in not being a quitter. The mantras of positive voices in my head continue bellowing,

“Persevere, Never Give Up, Keep Going, One More Step, You Can Do This, etc.”

Aaarrrgh! The voices are relentless even though I keep telling them I don’t know which way to go. I am directionally challenged at this moment!

Do you have any words of wisdom you care to share with me? I’m listening…

In light of not giving up, I finally made a decision. One that is long overdue! I plan to do what I’ve done many times in the past, and each time, my path forward came into focus—everything became much clearer. Why has it taken me soooo long this time? Call me stubborn!?! Is that a virtue? Hmmm.

I am now praying for guidance. I am placing everything about my situation in God’s hands and asking Him to show me the path He wants me to follow. I will patiently wait for His answer to my prayers and will refrain from head-butting obstacles I cannot see. My head is hurting too much to continue that way!


Yes, I must now have patience—maybe lots of it. I must remember that! If you know me, you know how I struggle with that simple concept. Waiting for three full cycles at a traffic light drives me up a tree!

What was that word again? Oh, I remember now—P-A-T-I-E-N-C-E!

If you are experiencing similar situations in your life, I suggest you do as I am now doing—pray and have patience. God will answer your prayers in His time, and His plan for your path will come into focus when He is ready. Have faith and trust in Him—always!

By the way, did I tell you I read somewhere that…

May God shine His light upon you and bring clarity to your path in life.

Tom Tatum – Author of Faith-based Novels

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